For some reason or other, there are people in our lives it is difficult to write about. We may love them; in fact we may love them too much. Telling the truth about our relationship and history may be one of the hardest things we've ever done.
I immediately thought of this when Andria shared, "I hope I can also one day write about my own mother in such a peaceful, tender way." And I realized that we put off the writing until we feel it is purer, higher, kinder. Yet telling the truth of our feelings is where the power lies for a writer.
Don't wait until you have "something nice to say." If you find frustration rising about a person or character, let that onto the page. If anger or resentment or confusion accompany every line, let it be.
Like most people, I have relationships and relatives I can't quite figure out - and I wish I could show these characters in a kinder light. But I must write about them, even while my ways of relating are not yet resolved.
And, by the way--I get asked all the time--changing names (yours, theirs, or both) for publication purposes is a must.
What challenging relationship have you not written about? Put something down on paper.